Posts tagged with ‘asked’ include the following:
aseriesofdoorsinmyface: I just want to say I admire your response to that guy about the porn.
Thanks. It was actually a girl, and she seemed to have—good intentions?
It’s hard to tell these days.
(Unless you were talking about the facebook conversation)
I read an essay recently that got a lot of things wrong, but one thing it got right was its description of a certain type identity politics that happens to thrive here on tumblr.
The essay described it as “driven by a priest’s desire to excommunicate and condemn, an academic-pedant’s desire to be the first to be seen to spot a mistake, and a hipster’s desire to be one of the in-crowd.”
So yeah, someone read a conversation I had that condemned people who strip women of their personhood and treat them violently and thought “oh wait, no! Kink-shaming! I found one! Wrong!”
So often it’s not done in the spirit of trying to reach mutual understanding, it’s people operating under the assumption that most people don’t know as much they do about allllll the rules of identity politics.
"The danger in attacking the [this behavior] is that it can look as if – and it will do everything it can to reinforce this thought – that one is also attacking the struggles against racism, sexism, heterosexism."
When actually you’re attacking the priest, the pedant, and the hipster.
Who, incidentally, all walk into a bar…
diekneipe: The thing is, though, that some women in the industry actually do seek out that kind of thing and do sign up for it because that's what they like. It's an emotional and physical experience that some people really enjoy going through. Maybe someone's tastes are a little more "fucked up" than yours. Doesn't mean they shouldn't enjoy what they want to enjoy. Don't try to speak for people you haven't spoken to.
Oy vey, I knew someone on tumblr would come in with kink-shaming accusations.
I’ll fold this into a Read More so only people who want to get into it will get into it.
Anonymous: Fuck you and your taxidermy, why don't you put your mothers ass there, dully asswipe!
Haha actually this reminds me of a good (true) story about my mom’s ass.
She has colorectal cancer and has had her colon removed, and during the worst of it she was getting a colonoscopy like every week from the same doctor.
So one day she has my dad write “welcome back, doctor” in sharpie on her butt cheeks before going in. The doctor flips up the gown and starts laughing so hard they have to delay the procedure.
He hangs a photo (with her permission) of the message in his office.
Probably my mom’s most salient and admirable quality is that she has been almost entirely unfazed by so much of the bodily stuff she’s had to go through. (She’s also head breast cancer and cervical cancer.) I freak out and start convulsing when a needle pricks me, so I’ve always been incredibly impressed by that—she replaces fear with curiosity and fascination.
"Can I have a tape of the procedure?"
"Hey look at this cool IV port they installed in my arm; it’s like the Matrix."
"This little kid called me baldy so I let him come up and rub my head. He loved it."
So yeah I guess I could put that photo of my mother’s ass up there to remind me about how fragile our bodies are, how much resilience it takes to go through some things, and how indescribably important levity is in dark times, you’re right!
Thanks for the input.
eternal-sighs: I'm so glad I found your blog under the "mononucleosis" tag somehow. I love your writing. I'll definitely be taking some of your advice on life.
This is my favorite explanation anyone’s every offered as to how they found my tumblr.
hellomynameismaddy: super into that clip from the mixtape. any chance you'll post the whole thing?
Probably not, because it was all done in a rush and isn’t something I’m terribly proud of. But I’m working on a second serious mashup album this year (my first album was this one) and bits of that mix might end up in the final cut.
niallsasymptote: Any chance you would ever make an Andrew Jackson valentine?
Ehhh, I’ve already done one figurehead of genocide.
Anonymous: Dear Ben, wich font do you use for valentine's cards? Cause I want to complete the card with my name. :)
Anonymous: Did Harper Collins steal your idea with their "if famous writers sent valentines" valentines?
No more than someone who has the idea to make the Venus de Milo out of snow steals it from the last person who did it. It’s pretty low-hanging on the idea tree.
That being said, I’m sure mine are what inspired them to do theirs. That doesn’t bug me, because I don’t own the idea. I’m sure I got it from someone else in some form.
But they actually did use “Let’s Be More Than Franz” for their Kafka one which was, I have little doubt, taken from the caption of my Kafka valentine, and that ticks me off a little. There’s sort of a copyleft code of honor and I feel like that’s a bit past the line.
That being said, all I did was draw dumb pictures and make puns, and my apartment has heat.
I’ll be okay.
ramenneedles: I've been following your blog since last year and I've debated back and forth about sending you a message saying hello. So, I guess, here is me saying hello. I enjoy following your blog! I like your illustrations and sense of humor and all that stuff, but also how seemingly considerate you are in your interactions with people.
Aw, thank you! I really appreciate that. As wronged-up as things get on tumblr, I really do always appreciate these messages. Makes me feel like I’m not just yakking into a void and that people feel connected to what I’m yakking out.
Anonymous: Are you feeling ok?!?
Yeah, someone had a poor reaction to my valentines and it’s cheesing me out. I know it shouldn’t, but it is.
All my old valentines two years ago were white guys, and since inclusion in the series is my way of paradigmatically suggesting that these people are notable and achieved great things (with the exception of the first set, obviously, because some were dictators), I felt like I should shoot for gender parity and some racial diversity.